Sometimes the best thing I can do is say, “Fuck it.”
“Fuck it” may be the ultimate statement of commitment, saying “I’m in” or “I’m out” while blocking all other thoughts. It is a statement of acceptance â€“ wholeheartedly embracing a course of action and its consequences.
â€œFuck itâ€ is best used in situations where there’s no going back. As a person who struggles with indecisiveness, getting to â€œfuck itâ€ is an effective goal for me. Honoring this makes it easier to block the mental and actual chatter around me and within my head. I used â€œfuck itâ€ when I went skydiving, when I made the decision to go to law school, and when I went to my first flash mob when all my friends bailed on me. (â€œFuck itâ€ can also be used to make really bad decisions like getting wasted and putting my fingers down my throat to make myself throw up.)
When I was a first-year law student, I wrote Seven Layers of Academic Hell. The seventh layer is â€œFuck it.â€ Here, â€œfuck itâ€ doesn’t mean I didn’t care about doing well in school. It meant I didn’t care about law school stress and other distractions. My mind got very quiet and I could focus on learning what I had to in order to properly articulate my understanding of the course material for the final exam. â€œFuck itâ€ can be a Zen-like state.
â€œFuck itâ€ makes life more simple. As an aspiring minimalist, I embrace â€œfuck it.â€ To me, saying â€œfuck itâ€ means releasing the superfluous mental garbage, mentally locking in to the one thing that needs to be done, and following it through.
Getting to â€œfuck itâ€ is simple, and not always easy. It often takes courage and the willingness to be uncomfortable in the process. But when I’m in a situation that requires me to say â€œfuck it,â€ making the commitment is less painful than mulling over the pros and cons. â€œFuck itâ€ takes me out of agonizing contemplation and into action.
Once I get to â€œfuck it,â€ there’s only one direction to go â€“ forward.