Day 26 of theÂ 90 Days of AwesomeÂ is in the bank! What made today awesome? The U.S. Supreme Court ruled that same-sex marriage is legal and protected the by the U.S. Constitution!
It seemed like this ruling was going to be a given for same-sex marriage, but conversely, it means so much. Remember, homosexuality was regarded as a mental illness by the American Psychiatric Association until the 1970s. Just under 30 years later, I was at San Francisco Pride right after the Lawrence v. Texas (which legalized consensual sodomy between adults) came out. I was a newly-out baby queer, just basking in the fabulousness of the Castro. I hope people at Pride festivals this weekend are having a similar experience.
During my lifetime, we went from calling homosexuality an â€œalternative lifestyle,â€ to legalizing gay sex, to legalizing same-sex marriage. Not only have we legalized getting laid and getting hitched (woo-hoo!) the Supreme Court has legitimized same-sex marriages. At this point, we don’t need to say, â€œgay marriageâ€ or â€œgay wedding.â€ When two people decide to get married, they have a â€œwedding.â€
As I drove into work, I listened to some of the reaction on NPR from people who were unhappy about the ruling. I thought, â€œUgh. Just leave each other alone,â€ before changing the channel. I always thought it was strange when opponents said that legalizing same-sex marriage would damage heterosexual relationships. I can think of only two instances when someone’s relationship creates a problem in my life â€“ and I use the term â€œproblemâ€ loosely:
- If I’m attracted to someone and thinking about hitting on them. (Note to self: always check the left hand.)
- If my friend is connected at the hip to their significant other whom I don’t like. (The same is true for a friend who is perpetually with their best friend and I can’t stand the best friend.)
Neither of these issues have anything to do with sexual orientation (or race, religion, gender, etc.). I hope as a country we are moving towards the idea of protecting individual rights, including the right to your own beliefs â€“ with the caveat that this doesn’t give you permission to dictate what’s right for others. Stay out of my wallet, my sex life, and my reproductive organs. I don’t tell you what’s wrong with your relationship or life choices (to your face) and I would appreciate the same courtesy.
FYI – Your relationship – no one’s relationship – has ever legitimized or minimized any of my romantic relationships.
I probably spent two hours after the announcement reading the reactions on Facebook and Twitter with giddy excitement. I finally had to tell myself, â€œYou need to calm the fuck down and get some work done today.â€
It was a good day. Congratulations everyone! Thank you U.S. Supreme Court â€“ at the five of you who made the right decision.